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Music can set the tone for almost anything you want it to. I firmly believe that good songs can be lightning rods to transport us into a mood, another time, another place, etc. I have read a few articles and stories that discuss how music can affect our behavior, how music is used in health care through therapy, how music can improve depression, and even how music can increase our intelligence. This got me thinking – shouldn’t it stand to reason then that music can also enhance our sexuality? I am not one to always listen to music while having sex, but it can be very enjoyable.

In addition, the great thing about music is there is such a wide variety out there that it is very easy to find the best music to match your sex style. Whether you are into slow and sensual cerebral lovemaking, fast and hard heart-pumping knocking boots, or even the kinkier side of sexual play, there is music out there that the can set the tone for an amazing night.

Since I am such a music junkie and addicted to my iPod, I thought I would come up with some quick suggestions for you to enhance your extra-curricular experiences. I am leaving off the more obvious sex playlist, but you can find it here on my Grooveshark playlists. Here are some amazing songs that can go on anyone’s sensual playlist and what they may say about you.

The Slow & Sensual Playlist

Waiting for the Night – Depeche Mode

Fade Into You – Mazzy Star

No Ordinary Love – Sade

Tonight – David Bowie

One More Night – Stars

Goodnight Moon – Shivaree

Wicked Game – Chris Isaak

Falling Slowly – Glen Hansard & Marketa Irglova

Set the Fire to the Third Bar – Snow Patrol & Martha Wainwright

Possession – Sarah McLachlan

Glory Box – Portishead

The Chauffeur – Duran Duran

2 Wicky – Hooverphonic


The Faster& Sexual Playlist

To Be A Lover – Billy Idol

Get What You Need – Jet

Do You Wanna Touch Me? – Joan Jett

Do Ya – Peaches

Sex On Fire – Kings of Leon

Dakota – Stereophonics

Rusted Wheel – Silversun Pickups

Damn, I Wish I Was Your Lover – Sophie B. Hawkins

The Seed 2.0 – The Roots

Promiscuous – Nelly Furtado feat. Timbaland

D.M.S.R. – Prince

Need you Tonight – INXS

When I Get You Alone – Robin Thicke


The Kinky & Fun Playlist

Take Me To The River – Talking Heads

Wave of Mutilation – The Pixies

Fascination Street – The Cure

Love My Way – Psychedelic Furs

Queer – Garbage

Sub-Culture – New Order

Master and Servant – Depeche Mode

Spank my Booty – Lords of Acid

Pleasure and Pain – DiVinyls

Ooh La La – Goldfrapp

Closer – Nine Inch Nails

Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger – Daft Punk

Love Is The Drug – Roxy Music


Now – you tell me – what songs put you in the mood? Let us know in the comments and I will add them to the exclusive SexInBmore Reader’s Playlist!

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